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In her new e-book The Later Dater,” relationship expert Valerie Gibson seeks to help women aged 50 and up to ease their transition back into the singles scene.
She described the book as a “natural progression” from Cougar, her guide for older women seeking younger men.“Women nowadays of 50, 60 and 70 are not the yesteryear women of that age group.
Gibson said prospective daters should also approach the process as they would a job search in terms of how they package or market themselves as well as how they research potential avenues for dating, like online sites.
She writes that an image update can be a confidence and self-esteem booster, whether it’s new clothes, a fresh hairstyle or kick-starting a new diet and fitness regimen.
The next morning (or even that night) come the recriminations: Was it wrong to give that person the sexual green light when you had no intention of rekindling the emotional side of the relationship?
Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.
In a national study conducted in 2012, the Center for Sexual Health Promotion found sex partners over 50 twice as likely to use a condom when they regarded a sexual encounter as casual rather than as part of an ongoing relationship.
Attending a party, business function or charity event will help them not only to learn or enhance their skills of being in a social setting and mingling with guests, but to enjoy their time out — even when they’re alone, she added.