Andy stanley new rules for dating
This is more about getting ourselves ready for the time when we meet someone that there’s chemistry with and we’re falling in love with, we’ll actually be prepared to keep the commitment we’re making.This is not simply a book for people who want to get married; it is for anyone who wants to have successful, long term relationships.But I asked them if they wished I would have addressed them specifically since all of my illustrations and teaching assumed heterosexual relationships.These men and women unanimously said “no.” They said that in the LGBT community, when they attend church, they are accustomed to contextualizing all the relationship teaching anyway. I told the men in our churches that if they have songs on their playlist that refer to women as “bitches” or “hos,” they needed go home and clean out their playlist.The feeling part is “we love the same music and restaurants and we can talk for hours.” The doing part of love is patience, self-control, and selflessness, and putting others first.The kind of love that goes the distance doesn’t come naturally to us.When I entered youth ministry, I must’ve signed a contract agreeing to teach about sex and relationships every February forever…it’s law! But with all the Valentine’s Day love buzz, it’s a natural time to focus on relationships. I’d heard lots of buzz about Andy Stanley’s So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. I appreciate the solid content, and so did our small groups as they watched intently and leaned in to listen.
One of the big assumptions I challenge is: As long as I’m in love and the chemistry is right, then everything is going to turn out right.The average person would hear that and say, “That’s not true.” But that is the approach most people take to romantic relationships.The new rule is: don’t assume that just because you feel right, everything is going to be alright.I hope the primary takeaway of these teachings is that: [tweetable]people should focus on becoming someone instead of finding someone.[/tweetable] RNS: You say that “you are sexually compatible with far more people than you’re relationally compatible with.” What are you getting at?
AS: When it comes to romance, people put a premium on the romantic part as if that is the litmus.Our sexuality goes way beyond what is physical, and we see that especially in the realm of sexual abuse.