Are you hot enough dating levels of intimacy and dating behavior
Evolutionarily (read more about this in What Do Women Want?
: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire), women want a man who can feather their nest and care for their offspring, whether or not they have offspring. Furthermore, if your main criterion in a date is her physical attractiveness, you may be conveying this preoccupation to your dates, who then don't really think you're looking for a soulmate, and may just think you're a shallow jerk.
I've seen a lot of dating advice on here, so I thought I'd throw out my situation as well.
Objectively speaking I am of just average looks, but in good shape since I run and lift.
It is your call what you want in your partner, but don't be surprised when your partner has her own desires.
The ultimate spark is not necessary, my only goal on a first date is to see if I am interested in having a second date.