He could read me like no one else, inspired me, and made me think and laugh and cry.We had dynamic "chemistry" — the unexplainable connection that movies and songs are made of.I wonder if you didn't have relationship one to compare it to if you'd already be married. And chemistry is a powerful force at play in your mind and heart.Chemistry is, I think, a polite way of saying sexual attraction.They can help you think through the soundness of your relationship, pray with you, ask questions that can help you get clarity about your future together and give you some perspective.Do you know a married couple (whose marriage you admire) you could meet with? Such a friendship can make a dramatic difference in the momentum of your relationship (it certainly did in Steve and mine! I would also advise you not to languish in this relationship.And I do believe it's because, all along, he was a sound candidate for husband. However, I would caution you from letting him go simply because he doesn't measure up to the man you yourself said isn't a candidate for marriage.
(On the contrary, the good ones do.) I think the problem, though, is that we look for chemistry prematurely, and we have unrealistic expectations of how far it can take us.
I miss the life, excitement and passion of the first guy, but obviously he is not the right mate for me.