Dating and the hsp
About 20% of us are highly sensitive persons (HSPs); at least 34% of love relationships involve an HSP. I have found that when HSPs aren’t understood by themselves and others, that spells trouble.
That’s surely part of why my data show that, on the average HSPs, are a bit happier paired with each other. My data also show that on the average HSPs’ relationships in general are less happy–implying that relationships HSPs are in are less happy, at least for the HSP. HSPs have nervous systems that pick up more on subtleties in the world and reflect on them deeply.
That makes for a lot of misunderstanding and “what’s-the-matter- with-you?
’s.” No wonder genetics cause 50% of the divorce rate– this figure represents the many divorces caused by the pairing of persons with extremely different temperaments who have no clue about how the other really experiences life. As with my first book, this one looks carefully at the effect of culture on HSPs–how it makes an HSP feel less desirable, less confident. As many men as women are born sensitive, but the stereotype is that women are sensitive, “real” men are not.