I’ve lived both in the US and UK, and, in both experiences, it’s the same basic story.There are lots of really decent men out there, but they aren’t the right fit for me or vice versa.More importantly, why is it implied that we are somehow inadequate if we can’t ‘hook’ someone?Ladies, if you’re like me – single in your late 20s and 30s, heck even older, and you’re hoping to find a good, quality man for the right reasons, then don’t listen to anyone who’s telling you it’s time to find someone and settle down, or that something is wrong with you. I’ve been asked repeatedly and even most recently a few days ago, why I haven’t found someone to settle down with.This is when I automatically put that kind of guy in the friendship boat.They get shipped off to Friendship Island, where we all have a superficial laugh every now and then. Men, whose religious views border on fanaticism, are the type I’m also most wary of.If selfish means actively seeking ways to improve our professional and personal stations, then sure, I’m selfish (insert rolled eyes and set jaw here).It’s a total Goldilocks’ syndrome for some, because we’re either not good enough or too good enough.
One of the reasons why I’m still single is because I’m restless to the point of worry for some.It’s not as though I want to be alone for the rest of my life, or that I think one can’t achieve personal happiness while in a relationship.I honestly want a good guy to share my life with, but it has to be for the long haul, and not just a few years.Where are the guys who can appreciate the ‘just right’? I’m one of those old-fashioned women who believe that a married man is off limits, no matter what kind of sad-eye, puppy-dog face he fakes when he complains that his wife doesn’t love him.
There are also the married men or men with girlfriends who present a problem, since there are some who apparently like having their cake and other slices on the side. It’s time for this ‘single means you’re pathetic’ attitude to cease, and it’s time to shut some people up.I’d rather stay single and strive for personal happiness than be trapped in a relationship with a man whom I don’t like or respect.