Net dating for disabled
"If you're disabled and you can't get a shag it must be because you're just not confident enough.
' It's nothing to do with our prejudices, oh no. You must try harder.'"Anna Hamilton, another blogger from Disabled Feminists, was turned off by the way the show presents people with disabilities "for the (televised) amusement of non-disabled viewers." That "tends to support a really tokenistic version of multiculturalism where the ultimate test of being an 'acceptable' disabled person rests on how much you can make non-disabled people relate to your life experience."Whether it's the title or the actual substance of the show, Ari Ne'eman, co-founder of the Autistic Self Advocacy Network, says the most problematic aspect of the show is that it reinforces the stereotype that disabled people are loveless and sexless.
We do hear about people meeting online and finding their one true love.
Everyone knows at least one or two couples who are now married.
Shain, a 31-year-old with a learning disability, text messages a woman "I love you" before even going out with her.
Luke, a 23-year-old with Tourette's, first meets his dating coach and uncontrollably yells out, "Horny bitch!
And dating with disabled is no exception, our site here is proof of that.Perhaps you’ve already had that experience, so that’s why you’ve decided to try dating with disabled too.Disabled dating with another person may give you a better chance of finding that special someone, as another disabled person also understands the challenges of life.That perception is "very damaging in very practical ways," says Ne'eman, who has Asperger syndrome.
For example, "it often means that disabled people tend do not have the same sex education curriculums that non-disabled people do," which can make them "less aware of their reproductive rights and contraceptive options."It isn't that disabilities can't present unique challenges when it comes to the romantic arena, but Ne'eman says, "The existence of those challenges doesn't mean that disabled people aren't dating, aren't having sex." It also doesn't mean that disabled people are the only ones who come to dating with personal hindrances and liabilities -- because, That's part of why the show is so broadly relatable: First dates are awkward for everyone.
"My problem with the show is its obsession with 'confidence,'" she says.